Women are often expected to be ranked lower in the
social hierarchy of sexes in the world, often we see women as a house keeper, a
material to play tons of roles like mother, sister, daughter, a friend, and
every other role that is necessary in the world but not ready to be filled by
men. But does this mean that a man and women cannot understand one another’s
social and personal role in the society and in their lives?
For our Anthropology class we read a book for our
course named Nisa which was written by Marjorie Shostak. She being a woman
herself looks at and studied the lives of women in the !Kung society. Looking
at what and how the roles of the sexes were divided between societies and how
the women were treated in the society. She did this as the movement for women
had started in her own society and the hype of equality between women and men
was one of the important topics.
Shostak being
a women wrote about female lives in the !Kung society. It may have been much easier
for her to write about women being a woman herself. Even though she studied a
society much more different than her own she must have been able to relate to
things with women. Even with the vast differences Shostak has been able to see
the major differences between the women of the two societies and also how they
were treated within the society itself.
However,
studying men may be a challenge according to me. It is not the difference in
the way the two genders think and work, it the basic fact that one gender
cannot truly imagine and feel the way the other gender works. Our concepts may
be different, our basic idea of living is different. A women writing about a
man and how they think or how they function is truly going to be much more
different than what a man will have to say and what a man will write. The
feelings and the understanding level may not be the same. Instead of getting
answers for our core questions, we may just build up our curiosity. Of course
this is supposedly positive, being inquisitive is a good sign however how long
is it going take before we are filled with questions and not enough answer. It
is simply how we are, we may not be able to truly understand what something
means. The priorities may be different between the two sexes, the conception
and the perception may be varied therefore this may be a harder task as we may
not be able to understand what the other gender says as we don’t feel the same
way about the issue, we may simply not be able to grasp the concept that they
have put forward or even simply because we don’t see things the same way.
It may not be all true but this is what I feel about
the idea of studying about male and masculinity. However, there are pros to
this as well, the first one being, if a woman studies about men we may be able
to see things differently, reading about en and masculinity through the eyes of
a woman may be completely new and may open up a window for more ideas, we may
also be able to see things as how a woman feels to what a man says.
There are
many possibilities to this subject and as the world believes we may never be
able to truly comprehend what the other sex is trying to make us understand but
this shouldn’t fail us from trying to understand.